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I was heading into a new decade of my life feeling strong about my career, my life accomplishments and my relationship with my partner. But when he asked me who I wanted to invite to my birthday party, my mouth opened and I let out a long trail of "ummms". In my early twenties, I was a friend-making machine.
The formula to make a friend seems simple: Meet lots of people, find someone you like and spend time together to foster a bond. But how much time? With many adults awash in Facebook friends, but reporting few real-life confidantes, the process seems elusive.
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Jeff lives in California and I live in Texas, so we rarely get to hang out. I hatehe hates Facebook, so we rarely message each other.
Phone calls were the way to go. Most weeks, we chat about nothing in particular.
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We tell stories. We make jokes.
We would have just been alone in our thoughts. And there were a few times when I felt like he pulled me out as I was drowning. It will be great!
His best friend passed away unexpectedly. That hour he used to have with him was gone, and it just automatically filled back up with work. I believe he hoped for it, too.
Fill in your below to instantly get my best work. But there are some weeks that really stand out. Calls I still think about. Those calls inspired me to set up another weekly call, with my dad. I had that idea in my head for years.
I made no progress. Then I began calling him, every week. And it changed our relationship.
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He needed it, too. Calling someone is a vulnerable act.
What if they just ignore me? What if I say something a little too real, and they no longer want me in their life? But the alternative is not having them in your life. Loneliness is a problem we all struggle with. But I do not feel lonely when I have these calls.
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